When I was leaving school and stepping out into the big wide world for the first time, I can clearly remember getting one of the greatest pieces of advice from my father. Now, back when I was given this piece of advice, I was a little roguish and the conversation had been born out of one of my latest antics and some frustration on my father’s behalf on trying to get a message through to the young man before him. The advice was simple: “it doesn’t matter what you do in life, as long as you do what you are capable of and be an individual”.
After this, I flipped my life around and I lived happily ever after. Just kidding. A couple of years of shenanigans ensued and many more conversations like this one had taken place. It wasn’t until many years later that I began to understand what my father was trying to tell me. What my father was saying to me all those years ago was to focus on what you are doing and be the best possible ‘you’ that you can be in every situation, whether at the office, gym, home etc.
A lot of the time people are overly focused on what others are doing and why they can’t do those same things. They get caught in a cycle of telling themselves “I wish I was like this, I wish I could do that – but…<insert hurdle xyz here>”, and eventually end up believing that they can’t. The difference between those who are and those who aren’t achieving what they want in life, is all about mindset.
You cannot control the actions of others, only your own. I see this every day in the gym or in a competition the person who is too busy watching others might win the WOD for the day but they haven’t pushed themselves to be their best and eventually, maybe not today or tomorrow, everyone catches up while they get left behind.
People aren’t often told, don’t worry about what others are doing, but we are definitely told if we are doing things a little differently. Ignore it. This is what makes you unique, know your strengths and weaknesses and embrace your individuality, it is your point of difference.
Focus on the job at hand and doing it to the best of your ability, don’t worry about what others are doing all you can do is your best and if you do that you will always be satisfied. This is the road to continual improvement and if you follow this path, one day your best will be the best.